Several days ago I began this series as an addendum or in follow up to an article that I wrote, Living with a Disability — Go and Make it a Good Day. I began this series because in my experience I found that I could not begin to Go and Make it a Good Day until I addressed what kept me from being able to Go and Make it a Good Day. Per your information, each part of the series builds upon the previous parts of the series and each part of the series is connected to the series as a whole.
That is why I suggest that each of the previous parts be read for context.
I hope you are benefiting from my experience, strength and hope. Please let me know if the content of the series is helping you. Thank you.
Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. You are always welcome around my table. Several articles ago I introduced a series, Living with a Disability — Go and Make it a Good Day. As a traumatic brain injury survivor — through this series — I share with you some important spiritual awakenings that I have experienced during my recovery process. These spiritual awakenings or awarenesses have empowered me with the ability to choose to go and make it a good day.
In Part 4 I share some of the benefits that I have experienced through confronting my denial.
And now for Part 4
Through the process of confronting my denial I have learned some valuable lessons. I will share some of those lessons with you. As I confronted my denial I needed to keep the focus on my self. I needed to be accountable to and for how I was choosing to respond my loss (s). I needed to own my sadness because of my loss (s) instead of detaching from my reality. I needed to feel my feelings. I needed to sit with my discomfort. I needed to determine why I was reacting to people, places and situations. I needed to determine why I thought that I needed to maintain my denial.
I needed to love myself through the process of confronting my denial. Consequently, I could no longer blame anyone for my loss (s) or for how I had been choosing to react to my loss (s).
Through my experience — in confronting my denial — I have become more accountable to myself and my choices. As I have continued to be accountable to and for myself, I have been able to own my process. As I have been able to own my process, I have been empowered to move beyond my denial. In the process, I have broken free of a denial system that sought to justify its position by denying my reality. By confronting my denial I have been able to open the door that my and other denial systems sought to keep shut. Consequently I have given myself the permission to be present for myself.
Therefore I have been able to move on with my journey towards the acceptance of my loss (s).
Please read Part 5 . Thank you.
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