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I am not exactly sure how and when my black and white thinking began, however I believe my black and white thinking developed to compensate for the fear, anxiety, shame and guilt that I experienced as a traumatic brain injury survivor. As I did a searching and fearless moral inventory through my recovery process I discovered how I responded to many factors through out my life time. Through my process I have drawn some conclusions. I do believe that my black and white / all or nothing thinking evolved over time as a bi-product of family dynamics, the way I adjusted to living with an invisible disability and in response to my learning style.
As a traumatic brain injury survivor I have learned how to make adjustments, however I have found myself guessing at what is normal for many years. I realized that I used black and white / all or none thinking to compensate for the injury to my brain in my attempt to maintain relationships with the people in my world. Through my experience I discovered several realities. Some of the people in my world are not able to accept or willing to understand why I have interpersonal difficulties — or how my life has been and continues to be impacted by my traumatic brain / acquired brain injury.
Through my recovery work and exploration I have learned some valuable lessons. I share in detail the lessons that I have learned as they relate to living with an invisible disability and black and white / all or none thinking in the following articles. My encouragement to you my friend would be to read through the each of the articles and see if you can relate to what I have shared in those articles. If so please let me know. I would love to hear from you.
A 4 part series — My Struggle Living with an Invisible Disability. A 2 part series — The Consequences of Denying my Reality, My article — Traumatic Brain Injury and the Double Bind, My 2 part series — Traumatic Brain Injury and the Identified Patient, My articles — Whose Shame are You Carrying, Displaced Sadness, Don’t Talk, Don’t Trust and Don’t Feel, The Three Rules Revisited — Consequences and Second Chance to Live — The Truth about Humiliation and Humility.
One final article that I would encourage you to read my friend is The Power of Identification because you are not alone.
I look forward to hearing from you.
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