As an individual living with the impact of a traumatic brain injury and an invisible disability, I remained stuck for many years.
I remained stuck because of what I was unable to accept.
In this 7 part series, I want to share with you what helped me to grow in the power of acceptance.
In the power of acceptance that opened doors to hope.
Through my ongoing recovery process, I surrendered to a life changing awareness.
As I surrendered to this awareness, I was slowly able to stop fighting against myself.
Fighting against myself, by trying to prove that I my life and well-being was not impacted by my traumatic brain injury.
In my experience, as I grew in awareness, I grew in acceptance.
As I grew in acceptance, I grew in my ability to take action. As I grew in my ability to take action I found hope.
In my experience, I became aware that I could not grow in acceptance before I first made peace with myself. Made peace with myself because of what I could not change.
Made peace with myself for the losses that I experienced because of what I could not change. The impact of my traumatic brain injury
In my quest to make peace with those losses I needed to address my sadness. In my experience, I could not just “get over it” without first doing the necessary work. I needed help to be able to identify and address my sadness and frustration, so that I could move beyond my sadness and frustration.
I needed to identify what I was experiencing so that I could move beyond what could not be changed. In my experience, I needed to stop denying my reality, so that i could do something different.
In Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s book On Death and Dying, Elisabeth elaborates on the stages of grieving. In her book, she introduces the 5 stages that people go through as they grieve their loss (s). The first of these 5 stages is denial. Denial is a defense mechanism that protects the individual from having to confront the shock of their loss. Denial manifests itself in various ways. I have heard denial explained as a warm blanket that insulates and shields the individual from having to face their reality.
Denial can also be used as a door to shut out, that which is just too painful to address.
Denial can also be used to ignore and avoid what we do not want to confront. Denial can be used to erect a dam to hold back unwanted memories and emotional pain. Denial can be used to suppress body memories. Denial can be used as a disconnect so that our hearts won’t let our head’s know what is or what has happened. Denial can also be used to defend, answer and explain away behaviors that undermine our well-beings. Denial can also be used to dismiss or invalidate another person’s pain or reality in order to avoid having to interpret or address uncomfortable feelings.
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