Over the course of time, the concept of humility has been confused by the dictates of humiliation. For many years I allowed the voice of humiliation to direct my steps. The voice of humiliation demanded that I do more – to justify my existence — even as I argued with my internal sense of shame. In my attempt to quiet the chiding voice of humiliation I focused on the expectations that were demanded of me.
Humiliation kept me weighed down as I focused on the should of (s), could of (s) and would of (s) of my life. Humiliation promoted an endless sense of hopelessness.
Through my process I have grown in my awareness. My awareness revealed stark distinctions between humiliation and humility. Consequently, I have come to recognize the hidden agenda set forth by humiliation. Humiliations agenda seeks to tear down, while humility’s agenda seeks to build up. Humiliation decries the human spirit, where as humility triumphs in the human spirit. Humiliation’s motive is to shame and strip the individual of their initiation to create, while humility longs to entrust and empower.
Humiliation’s motive is to undermine trust – trust in the process, in a loving God and in oneself. Humiliations goal is to control through the mechanism of shame. Humiliation’s center is found in the abyss of fear.
Humiliation seeks to repress resiliency, where as humility promotes hope. Humiliation undermines and isolates, while humility embraces inclusion. Humiliation suppresses the desire to explore through the fear of failure where as humility inspires the individual to push off from the shore. Humiliation minimizes progress through doubt and denial, while humility empowers expression through faith and trust. Humiliation by nature endeavors to disparage and minimize while humility champions hopes and dreams.
Humiliation dismisses with contempt while humility rewards with grace and truth.
For many years I cowered under the insinuations made by humiliation. Because I did not know better I felt helpless under the onslaught of humiliations contemptuous nature. I continued to be bullied by humiliation’s dictates until the day I was introduced to humility. Through my new relationship with humility I have come to recognize humility’s gentle nature. Humility — in turn — has benevolently ushered me away from the unreasonable dictates set forth by humiliation
As I have gotten to know humility I have been coaxed to trust the process. No demands have made of me through our relationship. Humility instead has allowed our relationship to develop naturally. As I have grown in my trust of humility I have learned how to trust a loving God and His guidance. I have also come to value my opinion, because I now matter. Consequently, I have learned to trust myself. Humility has given me the dignity to learn from my experience. Humility cheers me on as I grow through my experience.
Humility has taught me to value my efforts. Humility has shown me a new way of life. I am now free to pursue excellence with out any fear of reprisal. Humility spurs me on with encouragement because I know that I am accepted. Humility supports me with each new step that I take as I move toward my destiny. Humility provides a haven of assurance because I know that I do not have to be more than to be enough. Humility releases me to value my process, because I no longer need to judge my efforts.
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