After being terminated, told my services were no longer needed, or asked to not come back I found myself dumbfounded and bewildered. Although I had diligently applied myself to what I sought to accomplish I found what I had to offer not being received. Consequently, I internalized my inability to be successful in social and work settings as a personality flaw. I found myself buying into a denial system that told me I should not be impacted by my traumatic brain injury. And then one day I woke up to my reality. I did not have to buy into believing that there was something “wrong” with me. Today I know that I am enough, actually MORE than enough. My traumatic brain injury — 40 years ago — set me on a course to be infinitely successful.
I am learning how to channel my gifts, talents and abilities in such a way to encourage, motivate and empower through my experience, strength and hope. Please read my 3 part series, My Journey thus Far. I thank God that I did not give up on my process. Although for many years I felt like some one all dressed up with no where to go, I am now living through my meaning and purpose. I am living my dream. Second Chance to Live has become the channel that allows me to use what I have been given through a medium that works for me. Although the years of disappointment seemed to be for naught, I now realize that I was being prepared to follow my destiny. The switch – my traumatic brain injury — on the railroad of life was not a detour away from my destiny, but instead a fast track in the scope of my lifetime to point me in the direction of my destiny.
You may be confronted circumstances that simply do not make any sense to you. You may be angry at God, life and country. Being angry is part of the grieving process. Allow yourself to go through the stages of grieving: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Grieving is very necessary to the healing process. God can handle your anger. He is not mad at you, but is madly in love with you. Take time to grieve your frustration and disappointment. I had to grieve the loss of the way I thought my hard work was going to position me in life. Once I grieved my loss I was able to begin to look for solutions.
The answer is in the solution, not in what we perceive to be the problem.
After you have grieved your loss, take courage my friend. You are being led in the direction of your destiny through the circumstances that life is providing. Please read my post, Following your bliss…regardless. You are not your disability, your limitations or your deficits. Your passion did not change when you were injured in the line of duty. Realize that a wonderful switch has been turned on the railroad of your life. You are being prepared for something that you can not comprehend at this time in your life my friend. Be encouraged, your circumstances are not meant to keep you down, but they are meant to build you up.
Our circumstances provide the lessons that create the experiences that prepare you and I to take advantage of the opportunities that become available to us. These opportunities are in turn directing you and I in the direction of our destinies. Be encouraged my friend. More will be revealed.
If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavor to live the life that you have imagined…you will meet with success unexpected in common hours.
Henry David Thoreau
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