Hi and welcome back to Second Chance to Live. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by and visit with me. Thank you for your time and kindness. In the process of my journey, I have learned many valuable lessons. One of these lessons has had a profound impact upon my motivation. I have found when I attempt to validate my worth and value by doing, accomplishing or succeeding in life I become a human doing, rather than a human being.
For many years I attempted to prove my worth and value through being more than so that I would not feel less than. In the process, I sought to define my being through the eyes of other people. When I did not measure up to their expectations I felt like a failure. Unconsciously, I believed that unless I gained the approval of other people, my very existence did not matter. At a core level, I believed that I needed to justify my existence and well being.
You see, I was not comfortable in my own skin because I believed my worth and value had to be validated by other people and specific outcomes.
Consequently, I spent many years of my life striving to be more than in order to prove my worth and value as a person. Because I attempted to live up to the expectations of other people, I rarely believed my good to be good enough. As I strove more to be more I found myself becoming like a rodent running on a wheel inside of a cage. I expended huge amounts of energy without the benefits of my labor – a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. In the process I became a reactor, instead of an actor in my life.
In my experience, I have found that when I let go of the outcomes of my footwork I am able to trust the process. On the other hand when I am emotionally invested in specific outcomes I set myself up to be disillusioned when I do not receive the desired response. Through my process I have grown to value the journey over the destination. As I am able to celebrate the journey I can get off of the wheel and leave the cage of displaced energy. Success then takes on new meaning because I am able to celebrate the process.
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