Welcome back to Second Chance to Live today. I am so glad to see that you decided to drop by once again. You are always welcome at my table. After writing yesterdays post, “What is making you angry?” I have been considering the topic and want to share a few additional thoughts. Many times when I am angry I am afraid. I am afraid of losing something I have or not getting something I would like to have. My fear can motivate me to act irrationally. Many times my anger and fear has little to do with what is occurring in my present circumstances, but has to do with untapped sources of disappointment or resentment.
Disappointments and resentments frequently grow from the seed of my unrealistic expectations of God, other people and myself. As adult, I can not afford to be victimized by my resentments or disappointments. As an empowered being, I need to resist the temptation to pass the responsibility of my unrealistic expectations onto God or other people.
My experience has taught me that unless I am rigorously honest with myself, I will continue to relive disappointments and resentments from my past experiences. Unless I own my disappointment and resentment I will continue to be held captive by my expectation. When I own why I am fearful, I am empowered to live beyond my disappointment and resentment. Slowly I am released from the clutches of debilitating guilt and shame. I no longer have to live in the shadows of what I fear. I do not have to be held captive by the snare of anger. I can be set free in the spirit of my mind through my willingness to be honest with myself.
In the event that you find yourself plagued by anger or fear, please do not punish yourself. You are not alone in your struggle. Get a piece of paper, a pen/pencil and begin to write. Let your heart begin to speak to your head. Allow healing power to flood your consciousness. Feel your feelings and be honest with yourself. You no longer need to hide or be alone in your fear. As you write, ask the God of your understanding to help you experience the freedom that comes through being honest with yourself. And remember to be gentle with your process, because with all things there is a learning curve. Be encouraged in your process my friend, for you will find that hope does not disappoint, because you are loved with an everlasting love.
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